Posts tagged trans.
ya’ll out here acting like racism/sexism/transphobia/queerphobia/etc. is just an inconvenience for us rather than violence against our bodies
Transgender Communities: Developing Identity Through Connection
Lev AI in Bieschke et al (2007)
*slow clap* Perfect
just a lil PSA:
- there’s nothing wrong with people IDing as trans* or queer just because of the internet
- they’re not “faking it”
- because often times, the internet helps them reconcile and put a name (sometimes) to what they feel inside
- and there’s also nothing wrong with transitioning back if that identity doesn’t feel right to you
- and also gender is very confusing and it DOES fluctuate so don’t get irrationally angry if people change their name/identity often
The New Masculinity: Redefining Ourselves, Emerging From Our Cocoons
So me, I’m transgendered. It means that the gender I present in the world is not congruent with the sex that I was assigned at birth; in practical terms, I mostly look like a man but have a body that some would consider physiologically female. Even though I don’t identify as a man (I am a butch, which is its own gender), I am taken for a man about two-thirds of the time. And when I am taken for a man, I am not fat.
As a man, I’m a big dude, but not outside the norm for such things. I am just barely fat enough to shop at what I call The Big Fat Tall Guy Store, and can sometimes find my size in your usual boy-upholstery emporia. Major clothing labels, like Levi Strauss, make nice things in my size, and I am never forced to wear anything that appears to have been manufactured at Mendel the Tentmaker’s House o’ Fashion. (Although those things do exist for men, too. Those terrycloth shirts with the waistbands? Oy.) I can order extra salad dressing or ice cream or anything else in a restaurant and have it arrive without comment; I can eat it in public without anyone taking a bit of notice, even if I am shoving it into my mouth while walking down a crowded street and getting crumbs all over my chest in the process. I can run for a bus or train without anyone making a snide remark.
As a big guy, I’m big enough to make miscreants or troublemakers decide to take their hostility elsewhere. As a woman, I am revolting. I am not only unattractively mannish but also grossly fat. The clothes I can fit into at the local big-girl stores tend to fit around the neck and then get bigger as they go downward, which results in a festive butch-in-a-bag look—all the rage nowhere, ever. No matter how clearly I order a Coke in a restaurant I must be on a diet, and so I get a Diet Coke—usually with a lemon floating in it accusatorily, looking up at me as if to say, “This is as good as it’s going to get, lardass.” Wait staff develop selective amnesia about my side of fries or my request for butter, and G-d help me if I get caught eating (or even shopping) in public as a woman.
— S. Bear Bergman, “Part-Time Fatso” (via wretchedoftheearth)
Ongoing on Twitter right now, people are tweeting their negative experiences with doctors and other “authorities” in the medical profession when it comes to transgender issues.
There is a LOT of this.
Everyone should go read up on this because it is a HUGE deal. Trans people seeking treatment do so because they NEED that treatment, and having it denied, or being HUMILIATED and de-humanized while seeking or receiving treatment takes a very large toll on our psyches. The psyches of a group of people with a 50% attempted suicide rate, and who are several orders of magnitude likelier to be killed than the average person. And no, it’s not getting better, because the homicide rate for transgender individuals increased by 20% last year.
Was sent to a Christian therapist and told that it’s sinful and I had to change #transdocfail
(I actually convinced him later that it was ok. At least he was willing to learn.)
1) Be willing to confront instances of transphobia, cissexism, cisnormativity, cis-centrism, cis privilege and other forms of destructive bias where you find them (especially when you find them within feminist, activist or queer spaces), not through “call outs” or other toxic, self-defeating or abusive strategies, but by taking the opportunity for genuine discourse.
2) Don’t take a purely passive, reactive approach. Rather than waiting for things like someone saying something overtly cissexist, or a trans person bringing up a particular concern, be willing to proactively introduce trans issues, or trans-relevant aspects of broader issues, to feminist discourse. Likewise, proactively treat possible consequences, perspectives and concerns relevant to trans people and trans experiences as being not only significant but essential to all feminist issues and conversations.
3) Don’t assume any given issue is strictly, or even primarily, relevant to cis women. All feminist concerns are also transgender concerns, and vice versa. There are no feminist dialogues in which trans voices “don’t belong”, or to which trans voices have “nothing to add”. There are nosocial issues related to gender that don’t have consequences for trans people.
4) Proactively seek out transgender voices, perspectives and input on all issues, not simply what you regard as “trans issues” or situations where the value of such perspectives is immediately obvious to you. Come to us, rather than waiting for us to come to you.
5) Don’t treat the larger social conflict of gender as being dialectic or binary in nature. Don’t assume a unidirectional model of gender-based oppression.
Alladat right there.
— The Universal Holy Scripture of Angry Trans* Individuals, 24:3